Q. You got ordained over the internet Do you have any spiritual or religious credentials?
A. I grew up in the Episcopalian church. I received my Bachelor’s Degree in Creative Writing with a minor in Religious Studies that focused on World Religions. I graduated from the Center for Inner Truth’s Psychic Meditation Program.
Q. What does a ceremony involve?
A. A typical American/western wedding ceremony can involve a processional, welcome statement, family blessing, speak now, wedding sermon/speech, consecration (a blessing of the ceremony), exchange of vows, declaration of intent (legally required), exchange of rings, pronouncement, kiss, presentation, and then recessional.
At legal minimum, a wedding ceremony requires a Declaration of Intent – the “Do you take” and the “I do” exchanges. I like to include the Pronouncement – the “By the power vested in me” to show that the couple is legally married – but I don’t think it’s required.
I also prefer shorter ceremonies. 25 minutes to to an hour maximum.
Q. We are [insert religion]. Will you do a full [insert religion] ceremony?
A. Personally, I don’t feel comfortable doing a religious ceremony of a religion I do not practice. This is only because I’m sure there are more capable and educated people who could perform that service for you. But, if you cannot find anyone to perform the ceremony for you, I would be happy to work with you on the ceremony.
Q. We are not [insert religion]. Will you do a full [insert religion] ceremony for us even though we do not practice [insert religion]?
Q. We are [insert religion], but we don’t really want a full [insert religion] ceremony. Can you incorporate aspects – quotes, symbols, parts of scripture – into the ceremony?
Q. Our families are pretty uptight. Is that going to be a problem?
A. As of typing this FAQ, I have shaved sides on my head and lots and lots of tattoos. It’s not a problem for me. I’ll do my best to be presentable.
Q. We want to do an extreme wedding ceremony that involves jumping out of a plane/bungee jumping/hang gliding with our officiant. Will you perform the ceremony for us?
A. Nope! Have fun, though!
Q. We’re having a themed wedding – steampunk, fairy tale, circus, etc. – will you dress up in a costume?
A. Totally! Within reason, at least. I won’t dress up in any kind of insensitive or racist costume. And if your wedding is along those lines, you can probably find someone else willing to officiate.
Q. We’re having a wedding in another state/another country. Will you officiate our wedding?
A. Cost and time permitting, sure.